Positivity is half the victory

Yes, it is! Especially to someone who has the fear of failing while being at the point of success. We, humans, have defined success all in a materialistic way. Owning a big house in the tiny patch of land on this planet, having the most expensive car or bike of your dream, getting the nonstop feeling of being a millionaire. Why, when, where and how? I don't know. I am on this planet since 2000 and after getting the "Sense" Of growing, people are always advising me to score high grades, be a good girl in the college, be disciplined by always following my parent's decision, etc. Everyone had their own defined standards. And the thing is, it differed from person to person. Once I got into teenage, people started to look after me as a "Grown-up girl". Everyone wanted me to be quiet, disciplined, well-mannered, silent and girly. I never knew what that last word felt like - in that case, I was always the girl in my dreams maybe. Around the past 14-15 years of my life, after I got in senses of reacting to people, lately I noticed no one (not even my parents) told or advised me how to be a happy person, how to be happy within what you have and how to be happy even in the toughest tip of life. No one did. Thanks to Mark Manson, that one writer who has influenced me greatly and taught me how to not give a fuck about things that don't matter in the very next moment of your life. People are always striving to be happy. Of course, everyone has their perspective on happiness, but people want others to be kind and positive to them (then however they behave should not matter to others). That doesn't work at all. The vibe you build for a person is the vibe you get from the person. Trust me, it is personally felt. Being positive in that case is what we struggle in this world. People are spontaneous. Spontaneous by thought and action. We think about the failure first before the success. It's good to know failures, but it's very hard and negative to always imagine the failures. We want that constant peace. We want to achieve everything with fewer struggles. We don't want to go through the process. We have defined our limits and boundaries which differ from person to person. We have our own "That's not my piece of cake" Matters. We have a lot to do in a day but sometimes we stay numb. We have a lot to stay but we fail at expressing. We strive for being positive out there but we fail to know what we are is what we live within ourselves. The adult body we carry with our soul is what we live in. We may or may not be comfortable with our figure, but we need to be comfortable with what we feel for ourselves. Say for example, body shaming. If you love how your body looks and you have accepted it positively in the process of building it stronger, you don't care what others have to say for your figure. It's as simple as that. If you are not feeling worthy, checkout with your self - go through your thoughts, check out what changed, trust your process of healing and grow through that feeling. It will either make you happy or teach you a lesson. Nothing else would happen. It's either a yes or a no. You never know how your thought changes the yes into a no. We have that crazy habit of overthinking (thanks to our brain cells). Hats off to the people who have mastered with their self to not overthink and figure out what happens. You are not alone. I repeat you are not alone. You are born alone, you die alone, but the life in between, you have that one person who is always their in your life to support and figure out things if you cant do it with yourself. Just be positive. Trust me, I know it is not that easy. Everything around you being messed up and still being positive is tough. Being positive is not laughing at the situation and feeling afraid within. Being positive is gathering all your strength to have that one will of being happy even out of the toughest situation. Every one of us can find the calm after the storm if we fight against the storm. If you go with the storm, you will be thrown where the storm ends. If something comes in your way, you either throw it away or pass over it. But don't go with it. First, be calm with yourself. Take time for your thoughts, that is important. Your thoughts define your actions and your actions define your future tomorrow. Tomorrow comes, you need to be strengthened in peace. You need to know yourself. For victory being positive, positiveness gets you there. Positive attracts negative by the law of physics, but in life, you need to be a proton-positively charged with its self and radiating the same vibe. Trust your instincts. Life is a mountain, climbing is hard but getting down is easy, for if you don't climb the mountain, you never know what is has to give you at its peak.